There are times in life when we might feel totally, hopeless, helpless, overwhelmed with emotional pain. It can seem like there is no other way out of our problems, we’ve run out of ideas, possible solutions. Our problems seem not fixable. The pain feels like it will never end. We believe we’ve run out of options, and suicide is the only answer left.
For some people, suicide may be a way of getting back at others, or showing them how much pain you’re in. But after suicide, you won’t be there to see that they feel guilty, or finally understand your pain. Maybe the suicidal thoughts come to mind, you might have mixed feelings about them. They’re frightening and confusing.
If you or people you know have suicidal thoughts in your mind; you’re not alone. Many of us have had suicidal thoughts at some point in our lives. About 800,000 people commit suicide worldwide every year, of these 135,000 (17%) are residents of India, a nation with 17.5% of world population. At least 15 suicides took place every hour in the country during last year.
Feeling suicidal is not a character defect, and it doesn’t mean that you are crazy, or weak, or flawed. It only means that you have more pain than you can cope with right now. This pain seems overwhelming and permanent at the moment. But with time and support, you can overcome your problems and the pain and suicidal feelings will pass.
Some common causes of suicidal tendencies in India are– Bankruptcy, Marriage Related Issues , Dowry Related Issues , Extra Marital affairs ,Divorce , Failure in Examination ,Impotency/Infertility ,Other Family problems , AIDS/STD, Insanity/Mental illness ,Other prolonged illness , Death of dear person , Drug abuse/addiction , Fall in social reputation , Ideological causes, Love affairs , Poverty , Unemployment , Property dispute and Others.
Suicidal tendencies are mostly seen in the age group of 15-29 years; i.e. the youth of our country. A common cause for concern is the pressure from parents to do well in the board examinations, especially for Class X and XII, before finishing school. As scores in these exams often determine college admissions and subsequent employment opportunities, students aged 16-18 are often subjected to heavy stress at home to succeed. When they don’t, suicide becomes a way out.
The clash of values within families is an important factor for young people in their lives. As young Indians becomes more progressive, their traditionalist households become less supportive of their choices pertaining to financial independence, marriage age, premarital sex, and taking care of the elderly.
Other than this number farmer’s suicide cases are increasing significantly which is a major concern for not only common people but also the government. India’s economy vastly depends on agriculture with around 70% of its people directly or indirectly depends upon it. Different reasons like droughts, lack of better prices, exploitation by Middlemen, inability to pay loans etc. lead Indian farmers to suicide.
Symptoms of suicidal thoughts
There are a number of signs and symptoms of suicidal thoughts; the list below contains some of the most common.
- Feeling trapped or hopeless
- Having an abnormal preoccupation with violence, dying and/or death
- Being in a heightened state of anxiety
- Being very moody
- Changing personality
- Changing routine
- Changing sleeping patterns
- Consuming (more) drugs
- Consuming more alcohol
- Getting hold of a gun, medications, or substances that could end a life
- Having depression
- Having panic attacks
- Increased self-criticism
- Isolating oneself
- Saying goodbye to others as if it were the last time
- Seeming to be unable to experience pleasurable emotions from normally pleasurable life events such as eating, exercise, social interaction
- Talking about killing one, expressing regret about being alive or ever having been born.
A significant number of people with suicidal thought keep their thoughts and feelings a secret and appear to show no apparent signs.
Prevention of suicidal thoughts
Mental illness is the most common cause of suicidal tendency and completed suicide. A significant number of mental problems, such as depression, can be successfully treated with medications and talking therapies, or counseling. If your suicidal feelings were brought on by a specific event, like the grief of being insulted, job loss, or becoming disabled, remember that this kind of situational depression can still be helped by treatment.
If you have a serious condition that needs to be treated by an expert, just like someone with a broken leg needs to see a doctor. It is also possible to talk to an online therapist these days. A therapist can work with you to make all of the coping steps below easier, and to identify specific treatments that can help you. She/he may refer you to a psychiatrist, who can prescribe medication.
The following may help lower the risk of suicidal thought and suicide attempts:
Take help of a friend: Call a friend and Tell him/her how you’re feeling and that you need his/her help. Pick a friend who you think is trustworthy. Talking to untrue friends about your situation will only make it worse. Avoid being alone. Make sure that friends and family do not let you out of their sight.
Avoid being alone: If you are feeling suicidal, you should make sure that friends and family do not let you out of their sight. If you are part of a support group, lean on other members of your group for extra support from people who really understand what you’re going through.
Make a list of things you love: Write down everything you can think of that fills your mind with joy, or that you have a memory of associating with joy and love. This could be the memories of your family members, your friends, your favorite sport, your favorite author, your most favorite films, the foods that remind you of childhood, a place that feels like home. Write down whatever distracts you from harming yourself and do those things. Like call a friend to talk after a long time, eat a healthy meal or your favorite food, go for a walk, paint, write or read etc.
Make your home safe: Having easy access to dangerous items increases the chance of suicide. Don’t make it easy to change your mind. Lock away anything you could use to harm yourself, like pills, razors, knives, ropes, or guns. Give them to someone else for safety, throw them away, or put them in a place that’s not within easy reach.
Think about why this is happening and get the care you need: When you’re in a calm mental state, think deeply about why this is happening to you. Is it something that’s happened before, or is this the first time? Suicidal thoughts can be caused by many different things, and it’s really important to figure out what’s at the root so that you can see your situation objectively and take the right approach to stopping the thoughts. If you don’t know why you’re feeling suicidal, it’s important to work with a doctor, therapist, or counselor to find out what’s going on.
No matter why you’re having suicidal thoughts, taking steps to get some kind of care is the only way to make them stop. You’ll need to connect with a therapist. It’s OK if you don’t get immediate results – the important thing is to keep trying. Keep using your safety plan when you need to and working toward feeling better.
Avoid drugs and alcohol: Though drugs and alcohol have been used as a coping mechanism for pain for many years, if you are having suicidal thoughts, you should stay away from them completely. These substances can heighten or cause depression and lead to impulsive behavior and thoughts that can make you more likely to decide to end your life.
Remind yourself that this feeling is temporary: When you are seriously considering killing yourself, it can be hard to think of alternative solutions to the problems that you are having. One way to try to step back is to remind yourself that you have not always felt like killing yourself and you won’t always feel that way in the future. All feelings are fleeting and fluctuate over time, just like sometimes you are hungry or sad or tired or angry, your suicidal feelings and thoughts will pass.
Maintain a healthy lifestyle: A healthy lifestyle is essential to eliminate suicidal thoughts and maintain a positive and healthy life. Do exercise and meditation regularly. Eat a well-balanced, healthy diet. Focus on the good things in life. Get at least 7-8 hours continuous sleep everyday.
Suicide is not a solution. It’s a problem. Killing yourself will not solve your problems. Your problems will still exist, only they will no longer be your own. You may not feel the burden any more, but your friends, family, loved ones, and even the people who you barely know, even people who you DO NOT know, will still feel it. People often call suicide “the final resort”, i.e. when there’s nothing else, there’s suicide. That’s bullshit. Do you know why? The reason is- SUICIDE IS NOT AN OPTION.
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