Stop!!! Suicide Can Not Be An Option…

 

There are times in life when we might feel totally, hopeless, helpless, overwhelmed with emotional pain.  It can seem like there is no other way out of our problems, we’ve run out of ideas, possible solutions.  Our problems seem not fixable.  The pain feels like it will never end. We believe we’ve run out of options, and suicide is the only answer left.

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For some people, suicide may be a way of getting back at others, or showing them how much pain you’re in.  But after suicide, you won’t be there to see that they feel guilty, or finally understand your pain. Maybe the suicidal thoughts come to mind, you might have mixed feelings about them.  They’re frightening and confusing.

If you or people you know have suicidal thoughts in your mind; you’re not alone.  Many of us have had suicidal thoughts at some point in our lives. About 800,000 people commit suicide worldwide every year, of these 135,000 (17%) are residents of India, a nation with 17.5% of world population. At least 15 suicides took place every hour in the country during last year.

Feeling suicidal is not a character defect, and it doesn’t mean that you are crazy, or weak, or flawed. It only means that you have more pain than you can cope with right now. This pain seems overwhelming and permanent at the moment. But with time and support, you can overcome your problems and the pain and suicidal feelings will pass.

Some common causes of suicidal tendencies  in India are– Bankruptcy, Marriage Related Issues ,  Dowry Related Issues , Extra Marital affairs ,Divorce , Failure in Examination ,Impotency/Infertility ,Other Family problems , AIDS/STD, Insanity/Mental illness ,Other prolonged illness , Death of dear person , Drug abuse/addiction , Fall in social reputation , Ideological causes, Love affairs , Poverty , Unemployment , Property dispute  and Others.

Suicidal tendencies are mostly seen in the age group of 15-29 years; i.e. the youth of our country.  A common cause for concern is the pressure from parents to do well in the board examinations, especially for Class X and XII, before finishing school. As scores in these exams often determine college admissions and subsequent employment opportunities, students aged 16-18 are often subjected to heavy stress at home to succeed. When they don’t, suicide becomes a way out.

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The clash of values within families is an important factor for young people in their lives. As young Indians becomes more progressive, their traditionalist households become less supportive of their choices pertaining to financial independence, marriage age, premarital sex, and taking care of the elderly.

Other than this number farmer’s suicide cases are increasing significantly which is a major concern for not only common people but also the government.  India’s economy vastly depends on agriculture with around 70% of its people directly or indirectly depends upon it. Different reasons like droughts, lack of better prices, exploitation by Middlemen, inability to pay loans etc. lead Indian farmers to suicide.

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Symptoms of suicidal thoughts

There are a number of signs and symptoms of suicidal thoughts; the list below contains some of the most common.

  • Feeling  trapped or hopeless
  • Having an abnormal preoccupation with violence, dying and/or death
  • Being in a heightened state of anxiety
  • Being very moody
  • Changing personality
  • Changing routine
  • Changing sleeping patterns
  • Consuming (more) drugs
  • Consuming more alcohol
  • Getting hold of a gun, medications, or substances that could end a life
  • Having depression
  • Having panic attacks
  • Increased self-criticism
  • Isolating oneself
  • Saying goodbye to others as if it were the last time
  • Seeming to be unable to experience pleasurable emotions from normally pleasurable life events such as eating, exercise, social interaction
  • Talking about killing one, expressing regret about being alive or ever having been born.

A significant number of people with suicidal thought keep their thoughts and feelings a secret and appear to show no apparent signs.

Prevention of suicidal thoughts

Mental illness is the most common cause of suicidal tendency and completed suicide. A significant number of mental problems, such as depression, can be successfully treated with medications and talking therapies, or counseling. If your suicidal feelings were brought on by a specific event, like the grief of being insulted, job loss, or becoming disabled, remember that this kind of situational depression can still be helped by treatment.

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If you have a serious condition that needs to be treated by an expert, just like someone with a broken leg needs to see a doctor. It is also possible to talk to an online therapist these days. A therapist can work with you to make all of the coping steps below easier, and to identify specific treatments that can help you. She/he may refer you to a psychiatrist, who can prescribe medication.

The following may help lower the risk of suicidal thought and suicide attempts:

Take help of a friend:  Call a friend and Tell him/her how you’re feeling and that you need his/her help. Pick a friend who you think is trustworthy. Talking to untrue friends about your situation will only make it worse. Avoid being alone. Make sure that friends and family do not let you out of their sight.

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Avoid being alone:  If you are feeling suicidal, you should make sure that friends and family do not let you out of their sight. If you are part of a support group, lean on other members of your group for extra support from people who really understand what you’re going through.

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Make a list of things you love:  Write down everything you can think of that fills your mind with joy, or that you have a memory of associating with joy and love. This could be the memories of your family members, your friends, your favorite sport, your favorite author, your most favorite films, the foods that remind you of childhood, a place that feels like home. Write down whatever distracts you from harming yourself and do those things. Like call a friend to talk after a long time, eat a healthy meal or your favorite food, go for a walk, paint, write or read etc.

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Make your home safe: Having easy access to dangerous items increases the chance of suicide. Don’t make it easy to change your mind. Lock away anything you could use to harm yourself, like pills, razors, knives, ropes, or guns. Give them to someone else for safety, throw them away, or put them in a place that’s not within easy reach.

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Think about why this is happening and get the care you need:  When you’re in a calm mental state, think deeply about why this is happening to you. Is it something that’s happened before, or is this the first time? Suicidal thoughts can be caused by many different things, and it’s really important to figure out what’s at the root so that you can see your situation objectively and take the right approach to stopping the thoughts. If you don’t know why you’re feeling suicidal, it’s important to work with a doctor, therapist, or counselor to find out what’s going on.

No matter why you’re having suicidal thoughts, taking steps to get some kind of care is the only way to make them stop. You’ll need to connect with a therapist. It’s OK if you don’t get immediate results – the important thing is to keep trying. Keep using your safety plan when you need to and working toward feeling better.

Avoid drugs and alcohol: Though drugs and alcohol have been used as a coping mechanism for pain for many years, if you are having suicidal thoughts, you should stay away from them completely. These substances can heighten or cause depression and lead to impulsive behavior and thoughts that can make you more likely to decide to end your life.

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Remind yourself that this feeling is temporary: When you are seriously considering killing yourself, it can be hard to think of alternative solutions to the problems that you are having. One way to try to step back is to remind yourself that you have not always felt like killing yourself and you won’t always feel that way in the future. All feelings are fleeting and fluctuate over time, just like sometimes you are hungry or sad or tired or angry, your suicidal feelings and thoughts will pass.

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Maintain a healthy lifestyle:  A healthy lifestyle is essential to eliminate suicidal thoughts and maintain a positive and healthy life. Do exercise and meditation regularly. Eat a well-balanced, healthy diet. Focus on the good things in life. Get at least 7-8 hours continuous sleep everyday.

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Suicide is not a solution. It’s a problem. Killing yourself will not solve your problems. Your problems will still exist, only they will no longer be your own. You may not feel the burden any more, but your friends, family, loved ones, and even the people who you barely know, even people who you DO NOT know, will still feel it. People often call suicide “the final resort”, i.e. when there’s nothing else, there’s suicide. That’s bullshit. Do you know why?  The reason is- SUICIDE IS NOT AN OPTION.

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61 thoughts on “Stop!!! Suicide Can Not Be An Option…

  1. Hi , thank you for following my humble blog.l enjoyed reading few of your posts you have a positive view on life’s aspects.Beautiful mission to embrace what makes our lives on earth a journey of happiness .Jal.( l love to watch Bollywood songs.)

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    1. thank you for reading my blog posts.. you have a nice blog.. yes, I have a positive view on life and I want to spread this positivity to all over the world.. keep reading my blog posts and be positive.. I also like bollywood songs.. they are my favorite .. 🙂

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    1. Thank you for reading my blog post.. 🙂 I just want to suggest you help those people who are suffering from any kind of mental disorder or suicidal tendencies…

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    1. thanks for reading my blog post R.N…:) it is not a stupid thing always sometimes it is the result of mental disorder or severe stress… we should help those people to get out from suicidal thoughts..

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  2. Nice one, Rashmi! Breaks my heart that people get to a point where they feel there isn’t another way out, and even more that it seems to be the young who take this course action the most. If I could counsel anyone in that situation right now, it would be to say, “think of yourself when you were a baby, of the innocence; you are still that person inside and, whatever you are going through, we can work to pull you out of this hole and get you back to living for yourself. You owe it to your younger self”.

    Obviously a lot easier said than done, but I know everybody is loved from the moment they are born. Even if they don’t necessarily experience it in the childhood home, or feel totally adrift, there are people (like me!) you’ve not met who love you, so communication is everything. I think that’s the main thing – people are unable, or feel unable, to communicate their feelings, or reach such a state that they can’t see the forest from the trees. And that’s where it’s a two-way street; it’s on us as friends, as family, as neighbours to see those suffering and try to reach out.

    Ah, you’re post really got me thinking!

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    1. thank you Justin for reading my blog post… yes, often suicidal tendencies are increased because people can’t share their feelings to others.. I just want people help other people like their friends or family members to overcome from any kind of problem regarding suicidal thoughts.. people feel shy to share their problems, It is one of the biggest reason for suicidal tendencies.. If we try to listen and understand what is going on in other person’s mind patiently, many bad incidents as well as mental disorders can be avoided…

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    1. Thank you for reading my blog post knittingwithheart..:) I always try that people can connect with my post… solutions are also very easy… anybody can easily do those things and have a positive and better life.. 🙂

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  3. Very well presented!! Its a very very sensitive issue faced by almost every age group be it children rejected from Reality shows, teenagers not getting satisfactory marks, Students not getting lucrative ranks in competitive exams, Graduated students yet to get suitable job, career and peer pressure facing professionals, and an endless list…. But Committing Suicide is not an end to their question, but infact becomes the biggest question of their lives!
    Trying and Making a positive mind, is what may appear absurd to the people in such situations, but remember my friend it’s the ONLY solution to your question!

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    1. Thank you for reading Vivek..:) I am glad that you liked it. Trying and making positive mind is not absurd at all.it is difficult but not absurd.. if people get other peoples’ support and proper psychological treatment they can change their minds completely and discard suicidal tendencies…:)

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  4. Hello Rashmi! Thanks so much for following my blog:). You are absolutely right, suicide is not the answer. As a depression survivor I know this first hand. Thanks for writing this.

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    1. You are most welcome Antonio.. Thanks for reading my blog post and following my blog. I am glad you liked this post. It is a small initiative to prevent suicidal thoughts. yeah, I will follow your new blog. 🙂

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    1. thanks for reading.. I hope if anyone has this type of problem that person will be helpful by my post.. yes this topic has been written over years but still suicide cases happen..it is my small initiative against suicidal thoughts…

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    1. Thanks for reading my blog posts and sharing your wonderful feedback… I’m glad that you and your wife’s daughter like my posts… I have written these posts to help people who are suffering and make their lives more positive and happy… Don’t say thanks because I think it is my duty to help other people as a human being… That is why I had created this blog… It is my small initiative to help people..Keep supporting me like this.. Your support and feedbacks encourage me to improve my writing… they are my greatest reward…:)

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  7. This post was excellent and you may consider re-posting it closer to the Holiday seasons. Suicide and depression are very high around November and December. You can help many! As I am sure you already have! ❤

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    1. We all are bloggers and our writing styles are different from each other.. Please don’t compare.. Your blog is very good.. Every blog in WordPress is good.. I believe all bloggers are friends not competitors.. 🙂

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  8. Thank you for this post.

    My husband committed suicide in May 2016. He suffered from Bipolar 1 Disorder. There were many ups and downs, and the last up lasted 7-8 months before he crashed into a depression so deep I do not think he could have helped himself. The damage the mania did was so horrible, but it was not unforgivable had he had gotten the help he desperately needed through reaching out, connecting, talking to his doctor and psychiatrist, he may have made it through. I miss him. Our children miss him. I hope your post reaches someone who is struggling today. I know after he died, I thought of taking my own life. The pain was too much, and I just wanted to see him one more time. I’ve moved through the grief, and continue to do so, and I have support and people around me. I go to counselling, and I write to heal. There is no shame in any of this.

    Check me out. Let’s keep the conversations going.

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    1. Thanks for reading thoughtsnlifeblog… I felt very sad to know about your husband.. I can understand from how much pain you are going through.. Often pain becomes unbearable in these situations.. I hope people suffering from mental disorders or have any other problem think once about their loved once before taking such decisions.. I’m happy to know that you have moved out from it… Take care of your children..

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  9. Great post, very informative. And I would know since I survived an attempted suicide after finding out that I had an STD. I wanted to make the person who gave it to me feel guilt, I felt ashamed, embarrassed, I felt a cluster of emotions. But I got help, I’m on antidepressants, and I preach to others now that its ok to get help. There seems to be a stigma associated with mental health as well as STDs.

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  10. Thanks for posting this, it’s such a taboo subject with many people because they just don’t want to talk or deal with it. Your post was better received than mine, as I wrote one on my blog way back in 2007 and got nothing but vicious comments (many from religious folks). It was a post about my suicide attempt and I was considered selfish because most said I had a gift for writing and lucky to have a supportive husband, however, they don’t even know how my life or background was. I say, to those who have opinions, don’t judge….keep your trap shut!

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