Indian Double Standards

 

India is the second largest country in terms of population.  India’s languages, religions, food, music, dance and customs differs from each other. Where the individual or social differences in physical attributes, skin colour, castes, cultural and religious practices, etc. are not looked upon as a conflict. Rather, these differences are looked upon as varieties that enrich the society and the nation as a whole. Indian culture often called as “An Amalgamation of Several Cultures” or “The Epitome of the World”. The high mountain ranges, vast seas , large river-irrigated lands, countless rivers and streams, dark forests, sandy deserts all these have adorned India with an exceptional diversity. This is our India, the land of “Unity in Diversity”.  

In spite of having the rich culture, our society is full of hypocrisy. Our society has double standards with countless things like gender equality, skin colour, religious customs etc. Double standards present in Indian society from Vedic period to modern days. The society can be very cruel on both genders, especially on women.

In our society it is said that men and women are equal. They have equal rights as well as they are treated equally. These things are said to prove that we don’t discriminate between the two genders. However, I always have the question in my mind, “How much of it is true?  Have we really attained gender equality as a society? Or is it just a myth? “.

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Women are expected to wear traditional clothing like saree and salwar- kameez in family gatherings and places of worship while men can wear whatever they like. A woman wearing jeans or short-skirts is referred as “cultural assassination” in India still now, while men have been wearing western attire for generations. In wedding receptions, brides wear sarees or lahengas while grooms wear suits.  Brides are not allowed to do wear any western dress.

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A revealing saree is favored over a combination of jeans and t-shirt which will cover the entire body. A girl wearing crop top is considered as a bad girl as she reveals her waist but if a girl revealing same amount of waist by wearing a saree is considered a cultural and good girl.

India is a country where we respect and worship many goddesses as “Devi” like Durga, Kali, Laxmi etc. but it is the same country where hundreds of girl child are killed before or after their birth as they are considered as burden to her parents and family. Families also give less preference in education of girl child compared to a boy still today especially in small towns and villages.

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A house wife is considered as normal but a house husband is considered as an absurd thing. A house husband is not considered as a man in our society. Why only women or wives leave her job after marriage or having a baby? A man can also do that for his family. A woman with same qualities gets less salary than his male colleagues.

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We love to watch 40-50 year old heroes in movies but a heroine above 40 rarely get an important role of a movie. A married actor is considered as handsome as an unmarried actor.  However, a married actress is considered as unattractive after marriage in spite of having great acting quality.

 A girl is considered as inauspicious during her period which is a biological process and that is not her fault. She is not allowed to go to any temple as well as can not take part in any religious custom.  On the other hand a man who can be a rapist or murderer is allowed to enter in a temple because he is a man and has no periods.

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Not only in religious or cultural discrimination is shown; in case of crimes also women are facing the Indian double standards.  A girl who is a rape victim faces more difficulties, harassment and assaults than the criminal who have done the heinous crime.  She may be shunned from the society. She may be blamed for what kind of cloths she wears or it is her fault that she went at night alone in the streets. She may be doubted as having a bad character.  The same kind things happen in some other countries also.

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In various statements you heard from insensitive politicians and famous personalities it is found that they are blaming the victim herself despite showing sympathy to her or talking about the accused who should be punished. These statements are insensitive, inhuman and full of double standards.

When it comes to beauty a fair and slim girl is preferred as a beautiful girl. In magazines, hoardings, films we see an impossible standards of beauty for women which creates insecurity among millions of women. Yes there are standards for men also, but they are much lesser. Men are asked to be bigger, stronger, occupy more space. Women are asked to shrink, become smaller and occupy even less space.

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We worship lord Krishna and ma Kali but we don’t like dark skinned people. We want our daughters to do a good job but don’t allow our daughter-in-laws to do jobs. In our homes we all notice that males take important decisions only as the head of our family most of the times. If these things are not double standards then what is double standards? Not only India in other countries also these kinds of double standards can be shown.

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These things are not all. There are much more cases are present in India where double standards can be shown. Now the question is why these things are going on from ages and continue still today?  The answer is we women are not protest against this. They accept these things as their faith since they are women. Most of the women agree with these things and they stop other women to protest.

Is it all women’s fault? No. The problem is lack of education and family support.  In India female literacy rate is only 65.46%; out of which only few percent of women get proper higher education. How can a woman protest where her family is also showing double standards from the time of her birth?

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A PICTURE PERFECT SMILE…

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“Smile please!!” or “Say cheese!!”

A saccharine sweet smile is come on our face by hearing these words. These lines are usually heard at the time when someone is going to take our photograph. Smile is one of the most important parts that make a photograph beautiful.  It is an expression which denotes pleasure, happiness, amusement etc.

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A smile seems to have a favourable influence upon others and makes one likeable and more approachable.  Do you want to be more attractive? Just Smile more! Research has proven that we find others more attractive when they are wearing a smile.  Smile has special powers. The power of a smile can heal a frozen heart.  Smile is a contagious thing. Give to the world and the world will give back to you. Smile at the world and the world will smile back at you.

Just imagine you have worn a gorgeous dress…

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Sometimes We Have To Let Go That Person Whom We Still Love…

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Love is one of the most exciting, rewarding and satisfying of human experiences. Whether it is the love of family, friends or romantic love, it is a great human experience. Just as high as one might feel at the tip of that love, the lows can be devastatingly painful when it is time to let go that loved one.

Have you ever had a first love? I’m sure most of us had a first love or crush. With that special person you may spent good times and you didn’t want to let him go. Ever tried to let go but couldn’t, because you always wanted them there when no one else was; when it rains, when you were sad, or when you were scared.

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Everyday when you wake up in the morning, you are a new person. What completed you yesterday may not complete you today. Though it’s hard to…

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TOP 5 EASY WAYS TO GET CLEAR AND GLOWING SKIN

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Having clear, glowing skin can be a great boost to one’s confidence, but it doesn’t always come naturally due to our hectic life and pollution of the environment. Getting a glow and maintaining it involves much of your daily habits and keeping those in check will help you maintain radiant skin for a long time.

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Do you want a naturally gorgeous skin? Do you wish that you had absolutely flawless, glowing skin? Follow these 5 tips to learn how to nurture and protect your skin so that it looks amazing.

  1. Make CTM (Cleansing. Toning and moisturizing) a daily routine: It’s important that you follow this routine every day, because it provides your skin with the moisture and cleanliness it needs. Buy a soft, gentle cleanser to wash your face with each day. Then use a cleanser to remove dirt and cleanse your face. After cleansing the next thing is toning…

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Succeed after so many Failures…

Success and failure are two opposite sides of a coin. A person should face the failure before achieving his goal. Unless you face the failure you can’t feel the true happiness of success.

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Today I can say this because had faced failure so many times in my life and at one time I started to believe that may be I don’t have that talent or ability to achieve that position for which I was working hard for long time.

I want to say sorry to my readers and my followers for not publishing any post on my blog for so many days. I love to communicate with you all through my blog posts but I was unable to write something new due to my health problem. Thanks to all for reading my posts and sharing your wonderful feedback. Recently I’ve reached 1000 Followers on my blog which couldn’t be possible without your support and love.

I want to share a great news of my life with you all guys that I’ve got a job in India’s largest public sector bank i.e. the State Bank of India. This is a job I’ve dreamed for more than two years. When I got the news via message it was a dream come true moment for me.

However, I believe that I couldn’t feel this much happiness if I didn’t experience the failures of my life.

Today I want to share my own experience with you all how I achieve success after two years of struggle and failures.

I had completed my Engineering Degree in Electronics and Communication Engineering with too so many hopes and dreams. But like I’ve discussed about the condition of engineering colleges and the engineering students in India in one of my earlier posts my situation was not different from them at all. I was graduated from an engineering college with good marks but I didn’t get any job. After sometime I’ve applied for some jobs via internet and got some calls for interview but I felt those jobs are not for me.

I was offered jobs in call centres as technical support and some other technical jobs in small companies also but I felt after completing engineering I shouldn’t do these kind of jobs at least. I always wanted to do a government or a public sector job as these jobs are secured and better than private sectors in India in my opinion. So I started to prepare myself for these kind of jobs.

I’ve applied for some jobs as soon as the forms were realised. I was aware about the competition and the question standards little bit. Because that was first time for me I didn’t take it very seriously. We all know the reality is difficult and bitter. There was more than 20 lakhs or 2 million people are competing for just about 20 thousands of vacancies in banking sectors and in govt sector numbers of vacancies are in hundreds.

I had failed badly in my written exams badly. I couldn’t even clear the cut offs and got eliminated. I was disappointed after two or three failures but I was confident that I will get a good job if I work hard.  

I started to work hard and practice more. I also joined an institute which teaches the students to crack govt. and bank jobs. At the time of taking classes I had applied for some more jobs and this time I was more confident as I felt I improved my skills with the help of my coaching class.

The very first exam was the State Bank probationary officer exam. I gave it with confidence but due   to lack of accuracy and speed I could not clear the preliminary written exam because of the shortage of 0.75 marks. After that one after one exam came, the result was same. Sometimes total cut offs were not cleared by 2 or 3 marks or sometimes sectional cut offs. I became disappointed each time but I convince myself to do better in the next exam.

In the mean time almost all of my friends are getting job or doing higher studies and I was jobless. I never felt jealous of their success, I was very happy for them from the bottom of my heart but I felt little bit demotivated. I think it was quite natural. Anybody in my situation felt the same.

One day my one message came and gave me a ray of hope. That message came from the Life Insurance Corporation of India for the interview call as I had cleared the written exam. I was very happy and it seemed like I was one step before my success. But this time also my luck was not with me and I was not selected in the interview.

After that one after another failure came to my life. I had appeared at least 10 exams and all time I was failed to clear the exams.  This time I lost my confidence level totally and started to believe that I can’t fulfill my dreams. I was not having the ability and enough talent for that. Negative thoughts were started to fill my mind by replacing positivity. I saw the disappointment in my parents face also.

I wanted to get back my positivity and confidence level. I had applied in a well-known college for studying MBA as MBA students have better opportunities for good jobs. I got selected in that college. In the mean time I wanted to do something for not only myself but also help the others. So, I started a new blog and started writing.

Starting a blog and writing blog posts was not very good experience as I was a new blogger and most of my friends and family members didn’t know what the blog is as blogging in India is not very common. I had to request them to read my blog too many times and even I sent the links of my blog posts to them individually at the social media sites. My parents also didn’t support me; they don’t even support me now also. However, after 2 or 3 posts I was getting good responses and it increases my confidence level.

In the mean time I was appeared for the exam of the post of Junior Associate in State Bank of India.

I can’t express with words what is my blog is for me. It’s not my hobby but my passion.

I started MBA classes in July, this year and continue writing my posts.  My new college friends were very much supportive to my blog. Life became happy and positive again.

One morning suddenly the good news came to me that I Junior associate in State Bank of India. At first I couldn’t believe my eyes. I was so happy that all my pains and struggles were gone at that time.

I gave this news to my parents; they were also very happy for me. That amount of happiness I had never seen in their face. I saw the proud feeling for me also for the first time for me.

After two years of struggle I achieved the success and make my parents proud. From 19th December a new chapter of my life will start as a bank employee.  Sadly I have to leave MBA College. I will not be able to continue MBA now but this job is my Priority.

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I hope you liked my story and not felt bored… 😀

I know many people can relate them with me and they also felt demotivated, disappointed sometimes in their lives.

Try to do your best with a positive mind-set whatever you want to do. Don’t lose hope because of failures. It is better to fail than not trying. Failure is the first step of success. Without failures success has no value; no importance.

Take care… Be happy and be positive in your lives….


 

How to Build Self-Confidence…

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Self-confidence, the combination of self-efficacy and self-esteem, is an essential part of humanity. Self-efficacy is the internal sense, or belief that we can accomplish a variety of tasks or goals throughout life. Self-esteem is similar, but more related to believing we are generally competent in what we do, and that we deserve to be happy in life. A person with self-confidence generally likes herself, is willing to take risks to achieve her personal and professional goals, and thinks positively about the future.

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Having high self-confidence can help you succeed in many areas of your personal and professional life, but many people struggle with low self-confidence. Improving your self-confidence may seem difficult, but the good news is that self-confidence is something that you can build on your own.  There are several simple things that you can do, such as using positive self-affirmations, challenging your negative thoughts, and trying new things. Keep…

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